Just a few of my little observations (OBS) on this fine evening, on life in general. Entirely my thoughts and probably a very interesting insight into the inside of my head. If you’re reading this AND wearing a white coat, you can stop reading now. I’m all good 😂 Really, I’m perfectly sane 🤪
Perception is a little bit of a head f@#*. Yep, it really is. Very occasionally you will be a part of a conversation where your actual self is being described. Yes, you are the centre of the conversation 😳 Yet here’s the mind blowing bit. You’re hearing the words, you know it’s true, you are you after all. But you feel embarrassed, a bit sheepish, just a little bit uncomfortable. Why? Because your perception versus the outside worlds, well, they are very different. Maybe it’s time to start listening to the worlds perspective of you too. Not just the one in your head. The rounded view if you will. Just an idea.
Some people, you’ll never please. So stop playing the game of trying! Ok, I’ve started with the point this time. But hey, mixing it up a bit isn’t a bad thing. One statement got me to this little insight. Just a small statement in a normal conversation.
There’s more to life than happiness.
Ummm… I’m sorry. Not buying it. Just doesn’t sit right with me as a ‘true’ statement. We were not put here on this Earth to suffer. We’re not just some weird experiment the Martians are using to test how much unhappiness one can endure! We’re here to live, happily, and just once. Yep, we’re here just once!! So there is no advantage to be gained in spending time trying to convince the all ready converted. Happiness is not only ok. It’s what’s meant to be. But don’t judge anyone for their beliefs… If they believe happiness is so insignificant in their lives, then they definitely need your love and kindness 💕
One word can turn a conversation. One tiny word can have that power (a small(ish) sentence can have the same effect too btw). You can go from talking rings to talking exit strategies in one fell swoop! OK, I’m exaggerating a tad, but you get my drift. It’s madness!! I think perspectives come in here (but that’s a bigger blog – see OBS No.1. This comes up a lot and deserves some dedicated time and attention). For now, let’s just be mindful of our words. All of us. Hey, it might just help in the now.
Talking of the now, it really is true that the happiest people I know only ever focus on the right now. I mean now, as you’re reading, absolutely right this second. Obsessing about the past can lead to depression. It (whatever it is) is done and there’s nowt you can do to change it. Obsessing about the future, what if etc etc, can lead to anxiety. It (isn’t it a strange word… applies to pretty much any scenario) hasn’t happened, and you ARE NOT MYSTIC MEG!! (Sorry if you’re reading this Mystic Meg, obviously you are so you can obsess away 😂). The point is, the only time you have any impact, any improvement, any anything… is right now.
Sometimes, you just have to get s!@t done. Wow, I’m swearing a lot tonight. Oh well, for one night only I’ll allow it! It kind of goes back to the now thing. If it (there’s that little word again) needs to be done, and it’s not now, then when? If you think these things through too much then there will always be an excuse that you’ll think of, you’ll find a better/more convenient/easier time than just getting on with it now. The ‘better’ time often leads to never. And that’s no good. So instead of overthinking from an “I’ll do it later” perspective, why not turn it round. Instead think “what’s the positive impact of doing it right now?” It’s much harder to put it off when you’ve concentrated on why you should do it.
Well, I could go on all night with this, but I’ve got s!@t to do. I’m following my own advice! Could I have found an easier time? Oh absolutely! Ripping out a kitchen two weeks before Christmas is a challenge for sure! (Don’t worry, the white coaters stopped reading ages ago 😉). But the positive impact was too big to ignore. And already it’s actually resulted in marginally less chaos everywhere else (I know right, who’d have thought?) Plus, having a very focused and definite deadline means there’s no time for worrying, no choice but to be in the now. Bonus!
So I bid you goodnight for now, my kitchen is calling.
Laters lovelies 😘😘