Hey, truth is, opportunity shows itself everywhere, every single day. But ever wondered how you decipher one opportunity from the next? I know I have. When you’re bombarded daily on social media, with ad after ad of the next best thing? Everyone (or even just one someone) you meet has something in common that somehow connects you in a bizarre but wonderful way? A moment that connects you to something you hadn’t thought about before? Well, whether it’s fate, right of passage, a miracle! Who cares. Really. Just listen to your heart. From here on in, it’s all about just following your heart ❤️
Here’s my guarantee. If you do that, follow your heart, you’ll choose the opportunities that will work for you – and added bonus, you’ll avoid the (perfectly legitimate) opportunities that just aren’t you. Somehow, they just don’t fit.
Opening up your mind to what is really out there isn’t the easiest thing to do. In my experience, I’ve had to make more decisions being open than I ever did just following the norm. And when you think about the hype, the sea of brave, amazing and inspiring entrepreneurs, encouraging you to follow the exit (no life vests offered btw) towards your comfort zone, to put yourself out there, to go for it – versus the stability of a full-time salaried job where yes, you’re not exactly happy, but hey it pays the mortgage… just wow. Where’s the motivation? How do you even weigh up the two options? Mortgage, home, kids. They always come up trumps. ‘Job’ wins on the whole. Every time. But…
The thing is, unhappiness will chip away, just ever-so-slightly more discreetly. It will, bit by bit, diminish your true passion. You know that thing that makes you jump out of bed in the morning, that thing that makes you smile, the thing that you talk about over a glass of wine with your partner (that makes you just a little bit giddy inside because it genuinely makes you feel excited)… that dwindles away. Eventually. Slowly but surely. Don’t underestimate this cost. Because whether we like it or not, choose to admit it, choose to fight it… its a big cost nonetheless. Happiness is the one thing we have as human beings. We’re here for such a short time, why on earth would we choose anything other than a good time?
I guess that’s the crux of it. We’re here for just a minuscule of time in the real scheme of things. So a forty year career, doing what’s necessary, sacrificing time, passion, happiness (and all the other beautiful qualities we bury everyday) it’s not such a big deal right? If the mortgage is paid of course?
Well no. I don’t agree. Not entirely anyway.
There are many out there perfectly happy, living the lives they love, and still inspiring all those lucky enough to be around them. I personally salute them. They found their passion in the conventional way. The ‘right’ way. They get paid in a conventional ‘salaried’ way for what they’re truly passionate about. Hats off to each and every one of you. I truly do respect you’ve managed to find your niche in the world we live in. By the way, my partner, my soul mate, my sounding board, is one of those very people. Not only is he passionate about what he does, but he’s bloody good at it too. Maybe he’s living proof that you don’t need to work in the traditional sense – you can just do your hobby and get paid – if you work at being the best. I digress 🙄
But what about the rest of us? The us that haven’t quite got that? We haven’t quite got that instinctive passion or hobby. The rest of us being slowly extinguished by putting all of our effort into what doesn’t make our flames burn strong? What’s next for us?
Trouble is, it’s different for each and every one of us. There really isn’t just one answer. Because what makes us all tick, what ignites us, what makes us ‘do’ (whatever we need to do), what makes us really, truly, feel happy… there’s no strategy for that. That’s within you, and only you. The complete, perfect individual that you are, in your own right. The universal blueprint to success just doesn’t exist.
So here’s to thinking outside of the box. Find your passion, embrace it, and be brave enough to pursue it. Whether it’s changing career, moving away, travelling, setting up alone… just being bold enough to admit that you’re not really all that happy right now… just be brave. You’re here for a great time, not a long time. Enjoy that sacred time. Oh, and note to self, never ignore your own advice 😘
Lots of love lovelies xxx